Tuesday, November 24, 2009

I Love You, SYB Babes

Hi ladies,
I don't know how to say it. I guess I should just jump into it, since my keyboard is soaked with tears and my laptop will probably die in seconds. Next Tuesday, I will begin a full-time position as Beauty Director at Essence.com. Which means I'm also shutting down "Shake Your Beauty."

I know. I know. Believe me, it hurts me more than it hurts you. I feel like we're best friends. Sisters, even. Play cousins. You and I have been through five and a half years of love, laughter, marriages, babies, bad perms, migraines, Revlon Raisin Glaze Lipgloss, Q&A Wednesdays, a zillion posts about Tarte Cheek Stain and, and...well, LIFE. You don't know this, but you've gotten me through some really hard times. For three of our fives years together, I was going through a series of emotionally and physically traumatic IVF procedures. They kept failing and failing, and there were some really bleak times. YOU kept me smiling. Your comments, your emails...even all the drama over the Saks dress during AMBI-gate. Thank you. Girls, when I started SYB, I had no idea it would become so successful. I barely even knew what a blog was; all I knew was that I'd just left my post as Teen People's beauty director and wasn't ready to stop talking beauty. You helped me turn it into something that really mattered. We did it together! We rock!

How quickly my mood turned from despondent to rah-rah! I'm PMSing.

Recently, my life has taken some rather major turns...which I decided meant that the universe was telling me to switch some things up. This Essence.com position couldn't have come into my life at a more perfect time! I've always adored the magazine, the site, and Emil Wilbekin, Essence.com's irresistibly debonair managing editor (you also know him as the former Editor-in-Chief of Vibe and Giant). His vision for the site was so positively delicious and sexy that I was dying to be involved. Girls, as bittersweet as it is, I'm over-the-moon, hell-and-gone excited to begin this new chapter in my career. I really am. And I'm not moving to Siberia! Please, please follow me over to Essence.com! I have some really exciting stuff planned for the beauty and hair channels. Essence's digital staff is incredible, so I can do fun things I'd never have been able to pull off here (mainly because I thought the "ht" in "html" meant hot tamale).

Thank you so much for supporting SYB over the years, dear readers. You made it so fun for me. I'll always love you (especially the regulars...you know who you are). And even though the blog as we know it will be no longer, I'll send you updates here and there just so you know what's going on with me. And La Lina!

Here's what I know: You will ALWAYS be my SYB Babes. I don't care what other blogs you're into, or even if you never catch on to my orange blush thing. You'll always be my girls! Got that? Good. Now have a glorious Thanksgiving. I know what I'm thankful for!

Kisses, kisses, and mo' kisses,

Your Tia


Blogger Patrice said...

I've been lurking for about 2 years but I wanted to congratulate you on your new job and wish you and your family all the best! Thanks for all your posts over the years and a Happy Thanksgiving to you as well

9:55 PM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

from a long time lurker. . .you will be missed, but many blessings on your new venture!!!

10:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG Tia!! I am heartbroken, but I'm happy you'll be at Essence (my other fav) and I wish you and your family the best :)

April B

10:50 PM  
Blogger Denny said...

Oh no, I mean I'm happy for you but sad I won't have your blog to visit. I've enjoyed it while it lasted. Best wishes!!! You will be missed.

11:02 PM  
Anonymous Erika said...

Tia! Congratulations, doll. I'm so happy for you. Wishing you and yours all the best (especially La Lina!!)xoxo, Erika

11:22 PM  
Blogger Jolie said...

Congratulations, Tia!! You were a pioneer and are an inspiration. I can't wait to see your work at Essence.

11:27 PM  
Anonymous the beautynista said...

OMG....Congrats to you! What a GREAT opportunity! I wish you well and nothing but the best. I will always remember the girl filing her nails on the Total Beauty Tour bus behind me....lol.

12:58 AM  
Blogger Amina said...

I am soooooooooooooo sad :(
I am actually torn. I am very happy for you!! Congratulations!!
but I am also sad.
i wish you all the best and I'll definitely follow you on essence.com

Thank you for sharing with us your beauty tips and making us more fabulous!!
LaLina is soo precious and lucky to have you as a mom

1:21 AM  
Blogger Moni said...

Tia, you will truly be missed. It's the end of an era! Congrats!

1:35 AM  
Anonymous Anna said...

congrats on the position at essence! i'll be following you :) i didn't ever comment much but i LOVED reading your posts and you influence my trips to sephora/the make-up aisle more than any other blogger going. so, on behalf of all the lurkers i want to say thanks for running such a great blog lady! xo

1:39 AM  
Blogger Nola said...

Oh Tia, I've been lurking forever! I came across your blog when I was Googling my own name (I know, loser vibes). But I fell in love with your blog at the very first glance. You were the very first blog I bookmarked.

I went from being a girl who combed her hair once a week and walked around with ashy lips, to that girl getting Dominican blow-outs, Exibit A cheeks and glowing sun-kissed skin! I still cannot manage to find raisin glaze in Canada though!

Oh and when I found Lauren's Stereohyped... Lawd, did I think I was part of your cyber family! But now, you're leaving me, just like Lauren did (sad Tia (my) face).

I wish you the best of luck at Essence. I can't wait to check you out there. All the best to you, and Sunshine, and little La Lina, and your entire familia who had your back during Ambi-Gate.

All of us SYB Babes had your back too and we'll miss you!


Tia N.

1:45 AM  
Anonymous Foxijt said...

I have been an avid reader of your blog for years now. I don't often post, but I couldn't stop my fingers from typing after I read this. I'm so happy for your new position, I will indeed join reading the Essence blog just to see what you have to say. On the other hand I'm so sad to see SYB go. This is the only blog I read, your beauty advise is the only advise I take. You guide us brown gals in the right direction and never have lead us astray. I weep, I moan, I sigh. Please don't leave without telling us what beauty products 2010 have in store :)

4:26 AM  
Blogger Dia said...

Tia--We love you and wish you all the best from Bangkok.

Anasuya and Newley

5:25 AM  
Blogger Dia said...

Tia--We love you and wish you all the best from Bangkok.

Anasuya and Newley

5:25 AM  
Blogger beautylogicblog said...

aww tie, your blog was one of the reasons i started beautylogic. I'm glad that we got a chance to meet last year. thanks for always inspiring me. I'll follow you over to essence.com now. Hugs,

7:47 AM  
Blogger Cam-a-lam said...

Oh Tia, I got through college on this blog! I started reading it freshman year and bonded with fellow SYB babes on campus - oddly enough, we all had similar make up collections. I hope that Essence is wonderful to you. You are a magazine gem (and an inspiration to us aspiring magazine/writer girls) and I thank you for all your wonderful words of beauty wisdom.


7:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats on your new position but I surely will miss you. I'm fairly new to SYB (like in the last 6 months or so), but I bookmarked your pages when I found it and have been a faithful daily reader since. Essence seems like a great place to work. All the best to you!!!

And I guess I was a fan before SYB because I have read all of your books. :-)

9:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Awe Tia! U will be greatly missed! Congrats on your new position. xoxo

9:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

will miss you, but know you will be great at essence.
ps-dont forget about us short haired sistahs!:)

9:44 AM  
Blogger Zena said...

* cue Boyz II Men end of the road*

Tia I'm so HAPPY for you...

I am going to miss my La Lina fix, and our course your beauty posts.

Congratulations! Make us proud!

9:55 AM  
Blogger Christie said...

I am so extremely happy for you Tia! Essence.com has no idea how lucky they are to have you. I will definitely be following you over at Essence.com. I wish you, Adam and La Lina all the best! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and a Very Merry Christmas! :-)

Love ya like a play cousin. Mean it.

10:19 AM  
Blogger Small Budget, Big Style Chick said...

You blog will be missed! I'll have to trek over the Essence.com to get my brown-girl beauty fix now. Best of luck to you!

10:34 AM  
Blogger Allegra Cole said...

Fantabulous news!

I pretty much lurk but the dedication to the blog and your readers kept me checking on a consistent basis.

You were for me, one of the first beauty blogs I got into.

JOB WELL DONE!! CONGRATS on the new gig!!!!

I'm sure bigger and better things are in store as you parlay your way over to Essence.

I look forward to it!!

10:59 AM  
Blogger Alina said...

Tia! I've been following SYB since i was in undergrad and I'm going to miss your blog so amazingly much. Good Luck in everything!!!

11:05 AM  
Blogger Nogobelieve said...

Nooooooo : (

Sorry, I had to get that out of my system.

I'm really going to miss this blog. My mom's not here and my sisters are oblivious; you have no idea how much you helped me navigate the world of beauty.

So Thanks for introducing me to Neutrogena's 8 Hour Spot Treatment, Revlon's Raisin Glaze and Essie's Wicked.

And thanks for keeping me laughing with your perfect posts. I'll be happy to follow you to Essence.com : )

11:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow, I've been a reader of your blog for the past year and I must say that I am gonna miss SYB dearly. You've gotta do what you've gotta do career-wise, so I'll definitely support you at essence.com

11:23 AM  
Blogger Raven said...

Why do I feel like I did in 8th grade when my best friend moved away?
She was in a bad situation at home...so I was happy she was leaving that behind, but I was sad she was leaving. I am quite excited for you! I will most certainly follow you over to Essence.com!!
All the best to you and your family.

11:42 AM  
Anonymous Melissa P. said...

Thank you for the years of beauty dopealiciousness.I'm an avid Essence.com reader, and am sure you will do wonders to the new site. Lot's of love and positive energy being sent your way!

11:48 AM  
Anonymous China said...

Congratulations, Tia! I've followed you forever, even though I didn't comment often. I'm so very, very sad, but also very, very excited for this new chapter in your life. You will definitely be missed. I look forward to following you on Essence.com!

Love and blessings,

12:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

noooo. we will miss you and la lina!! congrats!

12:04 PM  
Anonymous Rasha said...

Say it aint so , Tia. :-(

I honestly feel like you're a part of my life. My fairy BLOG mother, even. Thank you for all of the years, all of the beauty tips, all of the drama, and "girl....have you eva?" conversations/comments and moments. This is was my favorite place for that good ole fashion girl talk and sharing.

Thank you. Really! I am and have been inspired by you and your blog for years.

Congrats on the new gig. Essence.com better get ready. TiaFIERCE is on her way....and we're all right behind you.


12:06 PM  
Anonymous Katelyn said...

Tia, I'm so happy for you! I look forward to working with you at Essence.com. Congratulations!

12:18 PM  
Blogger Nikia said...

OMG!!! I'm sad, but I'm so happy for you! You're truly an inspiration for me as a (black) mom/aspiring writer/beauty junkie! I wish you all the best, and I'll definitely follow you to Essence! I'm sure you'll do great things there. God Bless you.

12:40 PM  
Blogger Astacia Shari said...

Good Luck at Essence.com! I'll be following you over there :)

12:42 PM  
Anonymous Diva (in Demand) said...

Congratulations Tia. I have lurked here for years and I am so happy for you. I hope Essence is as good to you as you will be for it. Best wishes to you and La Lina!

12:44 PM  
Blogger Ashley said...

Congratulations, Tia! I'm so happy for ya, but I'm a little sad to see SYB go! =( TEAR!!!!

I will be at Essence.com visiting you!

All the best!

12:58 PM  
Blogger Cherise Ebony said...

OH NO!!! I"m just discovering SYB today :-( Well essence.com is a GREAT! GREAT! move so Congrats to you!!!!! The good thing is that you have alot of content here for me to catch up on all that I've been missing. BE BLESSED and thankful for God's great work!!!


1:01 PM  
Anonymous Lex said...

*lets out overlydramatic holler*

Congrats Tia!! We wish you much success...you are most def someone who deserves it. Oh and 1 question: Were you planning on keeping SYB up & just not update anymore in case we want to refer back to any helpful tips or should I jot down whatever product info I might need now lol?

1:15 PM  
Anonymous Tash~ said...

OMG!!!! I was SO hoping this post was going to be about you starting your own new beauty magazine or soemthing;-( I guess it could be worse....but you're going to one of my favorite magazine websites and i will be SURE to follow. Wishing you the best but really really gonna miss these posts!

1:17 PM  
Blogger Karen said...

How exciting.
I will miss SYB dearly but I'm glad to know we'll still get some updates of you and the fabulous LaLina.

This is the only website I have ever 'followed' in my life.

No worries, I can no follow on essence.com.

Thank you for all the time and good energy you put into this site.

It has been a pleasure.

1:17 PM  
Anonymous San said...

Congrats and Best wishes on your new job!!! I guess we'll have to wait a little longer on your next book now, but it's all good. May you and your family have a Happy Thanksgiving.

1:50 PM  
Blogger Susan said...

SYB will be missed, but it is a great chapter for you. I will be stopping by there to check things out, so at least it's not really goodbye.

Happy Thanksgiving

1:52 PM  
Anonymous Samantha Tse said...

omg Tia! Congrats on your new position!!! I am heartbroken because I love your blog and it has gotten me through a lot of hard days but I am also thrilled that you got such an amazing position! I look forward to reading you in Essence. Good luck with everything!!! xoxoxoxoxox

2:09 PM  
Anonymous Sharon D<--Shay said...

*dramatic wall slide*

I was just saying how I missed Honey! I'm happy that you will be at Essence.com. Maybe you can give it the flavor it's been needing!

My cyber-sisters and I refer to you as Tia. Just as if we've hung out with you on the regular basis.

Congrats on your new job. You have you and your baby to think of!! One day, I wish to know what it's like to do something I LOVE and get paid for it.

*pours out chai tea for the homie*

2:22 PM  
Blogger MoneyHoney said...


2:28 PM  
Blogger Sistastrong said...

Tia, I'm glad that you are moving on to bigger and brighter things. You've gotten me through the awkward high school days, a major death in my family, and crazy collegiate shenanigans. You new position only confirms what I always say: "I never say goodbye, I only say hello." I'll celebrate your star shining brighter.

2:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tia, Im going to miss you and yes, i will follow you to essence. they need some changes i was thinking about dropping my subscription, but due to your arrival with their team, i suppose i will renew again due to your new influence.
i love your post on you and your baby. and it was inspiring as i was pregnant with my little Frank.
you will be missed in your own space, but wish you the best.


3:04 PM  
Blogger Blessed Tresses (Blessedwmnofgod) said...

Congratulations on your new job~have a blessed holiday season. I look forward to seeing your work in Essence.

3:51 PM  
Anonymous chloe said...

the first comment says it best... we will miss this blog so much! A great memory for me was winning the 3 Custom Color lip gloss in Billie! so sexy...

Thank you for everything, Tia and the best of luck! I will be following you over to essence.com, so this heartbreak isn't so bad :-) (That almost sounds a little "Paparazzi"-like, lol)

4:19 PM  
Anonymous Darrell Copeland-Graham said...

Congratulations and good for you on you new role and your lovely preciosa La Lina. I am going to miss your blog. I have never commented before so I have to take this opportunity to say that I loved your work.

4:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tia....SYB was the very first beauty blog that I began reading and being a faithful follower of. You have turned me on to so many wonderful products. Im so very proud of you. Ill just have to become a faithful reader of Essenc.com now. God Bless you and I wish you more success on your new ventures! Thank you for all of your talent, wisdom, and love! Be blessed! Leah M Jeffers jeffersleah@gmail.com

5:05 PM  
Anonymous Funkeedva said...


La Lina has a great mom and Adam has a great wife. I have been reading the whole time...

lol dang, I just realized even know your sisters names....

I love the pic of your mom at your wedding thinking of your grandma...how you dress the doggy....lol and I love that you are pursuing your dreams.

IVF is a trip aint it?

Anyway, just wanted to wish you all the best and I pray all goes well. I aint mad at you one bit...

Memba the haters of 2008? lol That was classic.


God bless!

Keep writing, keep loving and keep it real.

5:41 PM  
Blogger LSA said...

TIA! I'm sad to see you go! You're th reason I started singing the praises of orange blush, and joined NABFEME! I'm excited to see what you'll do over at Essence. Congrats :D

6:36 PM  
Blogger MissAttitude said...

Congrats!!!! I will definitely follow you over to Essence. I love and will miss SYB, but best wishes in your new job!
And the book lover in me asks you not to forget about your It Chicks ;)

6:43 PM  
Blogger Lee said...

Congrats Tia. That is a very exciting move for you. You had a great blog here, and I'm sure you will do great things over at essence.com.


6:54 PM  
Anonymous bashful beauty said...

First off congrats! But this really a tear jerker I have also gone through some really great times and really low times during my years visiting your blog,and you have always been a inspiration.You have given depth, knowledge, laughter, and hope for career choices through your many post. Thank you!! You have a fan for life.God bless you and Happy Turkey Day!!!

7:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

But what about updates of your daughter??

Best of luck and I hope the Essence site retains your unique personality!!

8:50 PM  
Anonymous Hiroko said...

Hi Tia, I've followed your blog for years. I especially loved that you spoke to women of color. To me, SYB was a celebration of diversity in beauty, and I'll always appreciate that. Best wishes!

8:52 PM  
Blogger Kim Anderson said...

I almost started crying too...I am sooooo happy for you! I remember finding your blog a couple years ago and tuning in regularly ever since. You made me (a makeup artist ONLY) want to write about beauty...and so I did. I thank you for your zeal, regarding all things beauty and straight to the point-ism about makeup differences for brown girls...you rock! Congrats I feel almost like it happened to me...and maybe some day it will;) Happy Thanksgiving Tia!


Kim Anderson

9:30 PM  
Blogger sabrina said...

Aww...I'll miss SYB. I might not have comments often, but I read everyday.

9:39 PM  
Anonymous Tai said...

I know leaving SYB is bitter sweet but I know Essence.com is beyond lucky to have you. We'll follow you there. Sending you so much love...you and little 'Lina! xo

11:15 PM  
Anonymous FriscoGirl said...

Congratulations! I will truly miss you :( ... I have read your blog daily for almost 2 years. I look forward to you putting the "Tia-touch" on Essence.com! All the best to you and your family as you move into this new chapter.

12:14 AM  
Blogger BlackBetty said...

Say it ain't so Tia! I clicked in my reader to see what's new in beauty land. Surely I wasn't expecting this. I hope essence.com realizes the jewel they're gaining in you. You will be missed.

1:26 AM  
Anonymous Hillerie Camille said...

You rock girl!! Best of blessings in your new job.

2:49 AM  
Blogger coco_fiere said...

Like everyone else here, I will miss my first bookmarked beauty blog and will move w/you to Essence.com with excitement. You were the only blogger that shared & understood my orange blush/Raisin Glaze obsessions. LOL I'm happy you have something new to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. You are an inspiration and a beautiful person inside and out. Thanks for welcoming us into your life and creating this collective of cyber-sisters. Many blessings to you, Adam and the darling La Lina!

3:21 AM  
Anonymous Nerd Girl said...

Congratulations on your new gig! I'll miss zipping over here for the latest beauty news and pictures of your adorable daughter and will definitely "see" you at Essence.com

Peace and Blessings!

7:44 AM  
Blogger From Gullah to Ghetto and now Ivory Tower said...

I gained so much information and joy from reading your blog. I've purchased designer mouthwash, won a Carol's Daughter beauty gift set, intellectually whipped a reader who dared to call your writing style ghetto until she contacted me via e-mail and apologized, ahh . . . the list goes on. So I wish you all the best and will read Essence.com as faithfully as I read Shake Your Beauty.

Thanks for providing us with loads of information, laughter, and photos of your beautiful and more important, accomplished family.

D.C.O. (formerly Fo Real in LA and now From Gullah to Ghetto to Ivory Tower)

9:53 AM  
Anonymous Leslie C. said...

Bummer! I've really enjoyed your site over the years and have gained valuable information. I wish you well on your new adventure!

6:52 PM  
Blogger Chic Chocolate said...

Sorry to see you go, but glad you'll be at Essence! Congrats!!!!!!!!

7:48 PM  
Anonymous Juliette said...

Congrats Tia! I am a long-time lurker and after reading SYB for years was moved to let you know how much I've absolutely adored you and this blog! You feel like a friend as a fellow beauty junkie and migraineur and I've appreciated the beauty tips and empathized with your migraine struggles. You have no idea how many trips to Sephora have included the words "Tia says". You have left me broke with your product recommendations but I've loved it. I also love your comments on pop culture and life, in general. I feel like I'll be missing a good girlfriend with the ending of SYB and I've turned on so many friends and my mom to your blog. I've loved you since reading The Accidental Diva years ago. Best of luck! Thanks for sharing with us all these years!

9:30 PM  
Anonymous Porsche said...

My Dearest Tia -- My "BFF in my Head,"

I don't know if I'm more sad that SYB will be gone & out of my life forever (let's hope forever really means temporarily) or if I'm just selfishly devastated that we didn't cross paths at Essence.com.

I found your blog after reading [one of my favorite books] "Accidental Diva" years ago and I've been a proud SYB Babe ever since. Like an SYB Babe above me said, this blog was a gift from Heaven in college! What a girl crush I had on SYB. A new post from you made my heart skip a beat!

I'm sad to see it go, but I'm very, very happy for you and your new position, which is very much deserved. Essence.com is blessed to have such a talent on their team and we'll be over there to cheer you on!

Much love Tia and much much success. I wish you & your family nothing but endless happiness. Thank you for such an AMAZING blog over the years.

9:44 PM  
Blogger pretty mommy said...

SYB will truly be missed! You have done a wonderful job with the blog and inspired so many other brown girls along the way! Good luck with this new chapter!

6:29 AM  
Blogger Gigi said...

Congrats! And best wishes for your new job. Sorry to lose SYB, but over the moon for the new Essence.com.

12:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OH TIA!! I'll miss SYB sooo much. You are like a big sis to me. I feel like I've grown with you as well. It is time to open up a new chapter. Congratulations and good luck to you. Keep us up to date doll! I'll be visiting essence.com to see your work.

12:31 PM  
Anonymous couture nerd said...

OMGosh! Tia you're like the big sister I go to with all my beauty questions. Now who's going to show me what colors to wear and how to apply it. (literally pouting) Yeah you're just moving over to a diff site, but it won't be the same! This site is our place.

First Oprah, now you.
It's been a bittersweet week.

I'm excited and happy for you in your new position but this I'll def miss you.

p.s. If I our paths cross, don't be surprised if I start talking to you like you're an old friend - because I feel like you are.

12:48 PM  
Anonymous tabitha said...

You forgot to mention the hideous Harlem Bookfair staffer incident! Ugh!

(GULP) I guess all good things must come to an end :( I've been a fan since you were at Lucky, and I'm glad that you're moving up in your career, but it's still a bittersweet goodbye, especially since I just canceled my subscription. I will, however, follow you on Essence.com and wish you and your wonderful family the best, and every time I buy a new lipstick or mascara, I will wonder "What Would Tia Do?"

5:59 PM  
Anonymous Jerseygirl said...

Oh Tia! My heart sank reading this post. I will def catch you on Essence but know that your voice on shakeyourbeauty will be missed terribly. I can't believe that it has been almost six years, you've become like family too me! Congrats on all the major life changes and the new position.

8:35 PM  
Blogger Lavendar said...

I sure will miss you here at SYB Tia! I'm definitely following you over to Essence. Many wonderful Blessings in life to you and your family!

11:00 PM  
Blogger TNDRHRT said...

Awww...I will miss you, Tia, but will follow you on over to Essence.com. I love the magazine and the site, too. I've garnered a lot of beauty suggestions from you. Let's see...my blush of choice is M.A.C.'s Raizin of which I receive so many compliments when I wear it, I use the Global Goddess Coconut Amla oil on my hair, AND I won a Bare Escentuals/Bare Minerals makeup kit from you. YOU ROCK!!!! Many blessings to you as you begin a new chapter of your beauty career. God loves you and so do I!

5:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Best wishes, Tia!


Wishing you light and luck,
Your not-so-anonymous retro-chic Bebe pink shift dress fan

11:12 PM  
Blogger Luxe Tips said...

Wow Tia what wonderful news! I will miss the blog, but will definitely follow you at Essence.com. You are fantastic and deserve this position. Congrats!

11:12 PM  
Blogger divasoul said...

Oh you will be missed! Congratulations! I don't ever go near essence.com, but I'll have to now, to see what's up! Definitely keep us updated.

8:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG Tia! Congratulations!! I am very happy for you and I will definitely be heading to Essence.com...you have spoiled me and I don't know what I would have done without all of your help! Thanks girl! Essence.com here I come!!!

Your other play cousin,
Tanisha J.

9:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I will miss you soooo much! Loved reading...and if you could sneak in a few candids on essence.com of La Lina, that would be great!


11:39 AM  
Anonymous ceecee said...

Awwwwwwww! This is heartbreaking! I logged into google reader and saw this, I am soooo sad.
I love you Tia, you've helped me discover a lot of beauty products and techniques that I am ever thankful to you for, and even though I am way past my teenage years, I've read your books!

Love always,
die-hard SYB babe

1:21 PM  
Anonymous Melonie said...

OMG!! That is great news!! I'm very happy for you, I will miss reading your blog and all your beauty tips and secrets, but, I am very happy for you!!! Take care and kiss "our" baby girl for me!!:-)

3:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Guess I'll be following you over to essence.com. CONGRATS!! So happy for you and looking forward to frequenting a new beauty spot. SYB will be sorely missed.

3:48 PM  
Blogger Val said...

I'm happy for you but I'm so sad to. :( I read the accidental diva during a flight to Atlanta and then I accidentally found your blog one summer and have been reading ever since. I'm really going to miss this blog.

8:34 PM  
Anonymous Malca J said...

omg....It's so hard to say goodbyeee. I remember picking up "Accidental Diva" off the shelves of the library absolutely loving it then googling the your name (had never done that before) and found this site and I've been in love every since. Your blog made me smile during a tough pregnancy and now three years later I still can log on pull up your blog and smile. Thank you for being so generous with your knowledge and always providing options for us us brown girls on a budget to be fly too! Love ya Tia!~Malca J

p.s. please explain to them over at Essence the whole "beauty on a budget" concept cuz they be trippin sometimes lmao!

9:15 PM  
Blogger Melissa said...


I didn't realize just how much I loved your blog until your heartfelt goodbye! I almost got teary! Geez Louise, I thought, it's just a blog! But I don't think it really was just a blog. It was a source of inspiration and support to see a kick ass black woman in her third decade doing her thing with a beautiful family and sharing so much of her life with us all. I wish you a lot of success at Essence and with La Lina. I hope we get to see more pics of her! Take care! Smooches!

9:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Good luck w/everything. Please fix the new Essence site - what happened to it? Its hard to read and looks like a blog. Please bring your creative aesthetic juices and help them out over there.

12:15 AM  
Blogger The Mocha Life Coach said...

Congratulations! What an amazing opportunity! That is so awesome! I look forward to hearing from you in Essence, hopefully you will have an Essence Blog and slip in pic of the beautiful La Lina from time to time!
I will totally miss "Shake Your Beauty"!!

11:08 AM  
Blogger N' Joy said...


I've been lurking for years... relying on email updates of your blog. I loved learning from you (Plus, I've read "Accidental Diva" like 5 times ;-) I wish you the best at Essence...

Nicole W.

2:45 PM  
Blogger Candice said...

Good Luck Tia! On the new things! Best Wishes!

8:20 PM  
Blogger A*E* said...

OMG! I don't check your blog for couple of days and now I find out you're leaving?!? :( Because of you, I've been introduced to Philosophy's Marinating Oil and the wonderful fictional worlds of Billie Burke and the It Chicks. Le sigh... Thank you for all your inspiration, beauty tips and tricks and general fabulosity! I can't wait to see the fabulousness that you'll bring to Essence!

Wishing you, Mr. Cabezas, and the adorable La Lina nothing but the best,

8:22 PM  
Anonymous Kierah said...

Awwww man! This blog will definitely be missed. You allowed us to become your cyber girlfriends and put me on to some of my faves. If you keep doing what you do and doing it well, I guess it doesn't matter where ya do it. See ya on the Essence pages :) I'll be the chick begging for last minute tips for my wedding day in January

11:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes, Tia, I enjoyed your blog and am already a subscriber to Essence so will be looking for your "touch" there. Best wishes!

8:38 PM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

Tia, I have been a follower of yours since the beginning! I'm so sad to see you go but so happy that you are moving on to bigger and better things. And during this recession I know this dream came just in time. Thank you for always being there when I needed your advice, inspiring me to have a future career in fashion or writing.... or both! just getting me through the tough times. I've written you e-mails and you'd answer every last one. I'll definitely follow you at Essence! Your the reason why I came out with my blog that is not dusty and full of cobwebs but I'm going to pull it back out of the basement!
Congrats, wishing you all the best!

11:54 AM  
Anonymous Calming said...

All good things must come to an end. Thanks to you there have been many beginnings. You have inspired so many people, writers, bloggers, women of color and women in general.

Thank you for all of your amazing posts, positive image and living proof that dreams can come true. I will miss SYB but join you over at ESSENCE.

Many congrats and blessings to you and your beautiful family.


5:29 PM  
Blogger Tina aka Beanie said...

awwww...I'm happy for you and your new opportunity, but will miss your updates and of course La Lina! You better make sure we see pics as her cute self gets older!
Good luck and huggz!

12:01 AM  
Blogger Tiara said...

wow im so late! Congratulations on your new position at Essence.com! I've been following you and SYB since I came across Accidental Diva at my campus bookstore and I will continue to follow you at Essence! SYB has meant as much to your readers as it has to you, but change is always welcome especially when it's for the better. Many blessings to you and your family!

2:19 PM  
Anonymous Dawn Danielle said...

I am so late rading this, but Congrats!! I have enjoyed you over the years. Born in the same year almost on the same day...many blessing to you Tia! I'll see you over at Essence!

5:33 PM  
Anonymous Lianne said...


A thousand congratulations my dear. You have paved the way for many a blogger including myself. You will be missed in THIS space...your little blogger apartment. I will of COURSE follow you over to essence! I think you are JUST what they need to take that site to the next level.

Hope to see you when I am in NY in February....

Get em girl!!

6:57 PM  
Blogger Alixee said...

Oh No!! I am so happy for you. What a great opportunity. Your blog
is one of the 1st beauty blogs I encountered. I loved it from the start and knew you were gifted.

You will be missed..

3:11 AM  
Blogger Queen Without A Crown said...

TEACAKE! Tell me it ain't soo! What am I supposed to do now Teacake Tia! My heart hangs heavy, first Michael Jackson, then Patrick Swayze...and now this!

I am happy for you and once I pick myself up off the floor from working thru my emotions I will subcribe to Essence mag once again and will be looking out for you on Essence online...you have provided brown girls across the world with a private oasis to discuss beauty and everything else in between. Thank you for that from the bottom of my heart...Essence is lucky to have you, Kick Ass in 2010! I know I will! Felicidades!!!

11:16 PM  
Anonymous Celebrity Fashion said...

Sorry to see you go. I've followed your blog off and on for several years and you've always made me laugh. You give great advice and tips and Essence is lucky to be gaining your wealth of knowledge!

11:47 AM  
Blogger Mischo Beauty said...

Wishing you all the very best, Tia! And yes, I'll definitely follow you over to Essence!

12:52 AM  
Anonymous AA said...

Can't wait for you to revamp Essence with your wit and sass. You've inspired me as well (to soon create my own beauty blog). Thank you for your humor and sincere passion for all things beauty. Now go head' and shake your beauty over at Essence :-)!

~AA aka BeautyVirtuoSoul occasional poster &lurker '08-'10

3:13 AM  
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12:12 PM  
Blogger Madiha said...

Congratulations on your new job, and good luck :)



12:12 PM  
Blogger Charlene said...

congrats sweetie we shall miss u!!!

4:13 PM  

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