Monday, July 14, 2008

Got milk? Why yes, I do.

Hi sugarplums,
Lately I've come to the decision that it's too hot in NYC to continue with this Dominican blowout business. I will resume the straight n'swingy when the temp falls below 80 degrees. But until then, it's all about embracing the wash-and-go curls. Now, obviously, it's bad news when I even ATTEMPT to go au natural without a moisturizing leave-in to control the frizz and help define the curls. I won't tell you what I usually use, because I don't want to hurt it's feelings, but this weekend I tried Carol's Daughter Hair Milk ($12) for the very first time--and I've permanently converted! You would not believe how SOFT it made my hair! No gross, hard, crunchiness at all...just smooth, shiny, silkiness, and perfectly twirled curls. And yet, it's super-light. And smells like lily of the valley! Just run a quarter-sized amount through freshly washed and conditioned wet hair, scrunch, and diffuse. Honestly, I can't say enough about this essential oil-packed hair lotion. Just get it.

PS...Give P.Y.T. a round of applause for winning the "Cuz-I-Love-You Contest!" She was the first to answer the SIXTEEN CANDLES trivia question correctly (it was PS 431). P.Y.T, shoot me an email with your address at so I can send you your Motions Marula prize!!

PPS...And thanks so much--still--for all your fabulous congrats and mama-to-be advice! Especially Simone Jackson's Mom. You have much knowledge, my friend.


Anonymous tabitha said...

Ha-ha! I am first yet again! (enter maniacal laughter and clap of lightning here).

Thanks so much for doing this post for us naturally curly beauties (I have hair a lot like your sister Lauren's, and she NEVER jumps on here and puts in her two cents. Pout). I will try this.

Take it easy in that heat! Drink plenty of water!

11:01 AM  
Blogger Mikaela said...

The best, best, best shampoo & conditioner for curly hair is Davines - Love. Smells amazing & gives the softest & most luxe natural curls. I'll have to try the Carol's Daughter for styling...

11:25 AM  
Blogger zee said...

Afrobella just did a post Carol's Daughter lol. I like her products but most of the time the fragrances are way over the top for me.

11:46 AM  
Anonymous tabitha said...

I've heard about Davines, but I've always avoided their products due to SLS in the shampoo. My hair hates, hates, hates SLS. What hair type are you? I'm a 3b

11:50 AM  
Anonymous Simone Jackson's Mommy said...

You are ever so welcome!!! Your blog is my favorite daily blog (neck and neck with your sister's). My two favorite loves - beauty products and our culture!

I am a curly girl too (Miss Jessie's is another must have - The Baby Buttercream smells good enough to grab a spoon and eat it up). I've used every single product under the sun - I will rediscover Hair Milk and see if it works better than my current combo...


12:18 PM  
Blogger teeluv said...

I love Carol's Daughter products. My hair always looks shiney and healthy.

But do have to agree that the scents can be a bit much.

My fav is the hair balm but it has a strong bergamont kinda smell. I sometimes mix it with the hair milk or hair honey to cut the scent.

Have never heard of Davines...will have to look it up and see where I can find it in my area.

12:59 PM  
Anonymous chantejoy said...

I will try Davines and Carol's Daughter Hair Milk. Another good one: My hairdresser told me about Bed Head's "Cocky" when I cut my hair short so that I could use it when I wear it curly. People at my job commented immediately that something was different about my hair!

2:00 PM  
Anonymous Tracie said...

I have to try this. I've been using this Motions Mousse stuff but it doesnt define all the curls. Is this because I have a relaxer??? oo n congrats on the pregancy!!!

3:00 PM  
Blogger Kimmi said...

tia! Congrats on the pregnancy! I have two little tidbits that I think you might appreciate. 1, There is this book that was an absolute lifesaver and didn't have me calling my OB nonstop asking if I could take this or eat that. It's called Pregnancy dos and don'ts. also, I saw that you mentioned Carol's daughter in a post and while I would love to try their products, a lot of them have nuts in them like Shea butter and whatnot. So, I do know if there is a history of nut allergies in your family, then you might want to avoid exposure during the pregnancy. Just one more thing to be cautious of for you and your little accidental diva!


3:04 PM  
Blogger Calming Corners said...

Thanks for the post. I think it is a life long effort to find products that make your naturally curly tresses happy!!!

I guess it makes it fun that you are always trying something new to bring joy to your hair.

4:26 PM  
Anonymous Amyre said...

Congrats on the baby news! That is awesome.

I'm natural 98% of the time and I have used the hair milk before and i really like it. But, it is a bit pricey.

I recommend the Herbal Essence Totally Twisted line of products. They make my curls so pretty and the smell is awesome! I use the mousse sometimes, but mostly on humid days when my hair swells to epic proportions.
I do like their leave in conditioning stuff too, its not in the totally twisted line but its by herbal essence. I've used none of your friziness and break's over which does what their titles indicate.

Check it out when you get a chance :)

5:07 PM  
Blogger karen said...

That sounds great but I'm afraid I'm going to need something that does more control?
Anything you can recommend for someone in south Louisiana with absurdly thick, long hair?

10:12 PM  
Anonymous Lauren Williams said...

Tabitha, I usually only appear in the comments to defend my sister's honor during those few times a year when the crazies come out, but I didn't know my two cents were requested! As Tia has written here on SYB, I went natural a few years ago, and finding out what does and doesn't work for my hair has been quite a learning process.

I used to be a devoted Curly Pudding user, but that was before I found the much more affordable Kinky-Curly line. I use the Curling Custard and Knot Today, which is a detangler. I find that my tub of custard lasts longer than my Curly Pudding did, and I have far fewer frizzy spots. Also, when I use Kinky-Curly and sleep with a scarf or bonnet (Tia jokes on the bonnet but cannot deny its effectiveness), my curls are still very much intact the next day. Sometimes, depending on the humidity, the day after, too. With other products, I have to wash my hair every day or wear it down once and then bun it for the next two days. That's a pain. Anyway, to top it all off, the creator of the line, Shelley Davis, is, as Tia and I found out after I started using the products, a fantastic person.

3:37 PM  
Anonymous tabitha said...

Thanks, Lauren!

That was worth waaaaay more than 2 cents! :)

6:00 PM  
Blogger karen said...

oooh yeah thanx Lauren!

6:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Tia could you show us your wash and go style? I'm trying to give up the heat and swing and attempted a braid out that didn't work to well.

10:08 PM  
Anonymous Tabitha said...


It isn't the best pic of Tia's hair (the focus is more on the outfit), but she did a post in Miami last year that showed her hair sans blowout:

9:53 AM  
Blogger Yannize said...

my curly 2 cents
davines-its ok...not a must have
carols daughter-i enjoy lisa's hair elixir-that is the!
miss jessies-baby buttercreme is as necessary as air! as well as of course the curly pudding, and their newest product-quick curl-gives you a great wavy look and it smells like lime!

11:09 AM  
Blogger Hammocks & High Tea said...

I love hair milk but as my hair falls into my face it seems to be too oily. My newest love is the leave in conditioner from Mixed Chicks (, it's ridiculously light, not oily at all and pumps up every lackluster curl. At half the price of Miss Jessies, I don't feel guilty about buying it. It's been my magic this summer, honestly.

I've started to use pure coconut oil on my hair, scalp, and skin. I use it in the shower after conditioning and the shine is killer.
Would love more curly girl posts Tia!

5:42 PM  
Anonymous bijoux said...

Is there any way to have a no fuss style for relaxed hair? My hair does not even last a hour out of the Dominican salon on these humid days

9:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Tia! What about us relaxer heads? Blow drying and flat ironing in this heat and humidity is a pain. I've tried air drying in the past, but endless up with a frizzy mess. HELP!

10:30 PM  
Anonymous me&me said...

Hey guys check out these youtube videos from Macherieamor:

She has two how to braid out videos that I want to try this weekend.

5:54 PM  
Anonymous me&me said...


I tried air drying this week and my hair is frizzy also. I wash every week but I don't want to use the dreaded jaws of heat every week.


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9:12 PM  
Blogger Bsquared said...


Congrats again on being a mommy-to-be. I hope this question is not too personal but did your decision to forgo wearing your tresses straight have anything to do with being pregnant? While I don't have any children of my own yet, I certainly plan to one day and so I am very curious about this. I have read conflicting opinions on whether on not relaxing/coloring the hair of expecting women is harmful to an unborn baby.

As a beauty expert, what is your take on this?

Many thanks in advance!

10:17 PM  
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